Following the murder and rape of Paulina Dembska, the Faculty for Social Well-being immediately issued a statement condemning the ‘culture’ of misogyny that sweeps our communities and has created, together with other variables, the perfect conditions for yet another femicide.
As the statement we issued goes, “it is a harsh reminder that, today, in the 21st century, there is still an urgent need to build equality between men and women in the Maltese islands and to eradicate the gender stereotypes which are the source of inequality and gender-based violence, including femicide”.
The defensive stance that a number of men are taking is uncalled for and was the subject of a debate during my radio show recently. As lawyer Lara Dimitrijevic and lecturer Marceline Naudi, both long-time women’s rights activists, claimed, the patriarchal male-dominated society we are immersed in is creating the perfect storm.
What they claimed is very much in line with what was quoted in the press release that “[we] are calling for an end to the gender-motivated killing of women and spotlighting this important issue on a national platform”.
I think that men, instead of taking a self-justifying position, should focus more on becoming part of the movement.
Men, instead of taking a self-justifying position, should focus more on becoming part of the movement.
They should be about empathising and actively contributing to change while being auto-reflective, engaging actively in deconstructing this embedded culture of misogyny, coercion, sexist prejudice, violence and the general oppression of women very much like the movement Men Against Violence.
This unique organisation in Malta has provided incessantly to the cause.
Not only. The truth of the matter is that we cannot afford to wait passively for another horrific situation to unfold for us to realise that we are not out of the woods. ‘Dedicating’ some moments to talk about this situation until the next clickable news item pops up is an insult to the victims. What is needed is decisive action.
We also need to rethink our social and public policy; strengthen our legislative infrastructure (and its enforcement); improve the reactive police intervention; develop more reporting tools for potential victims; invest in research; improve our service provision; and mend our unfitting use of language, to name just a few.
But I believe that the key elements at the heart of the much-needed transformation need to be the following: first and foremost, it is imperative that we have the validation and recognition of the voice of the grassroots. NGOs are at the heart of what is happening and are continually present as they are supporting so many women.
Secondly, we need the courage to invest in converging the efforts of all stakeholders involved: government services, politicians, policymakers, NGOs, activists and victims.
Paulina Dembska is a reminder that, once again, we have failed women- Andrew Azzopardi
Thirdly, with all the good intentions, entities working separately is not a good omen. Strength lies in the collective.
In its statement, the faculty goes on to say that: “Gender-motivated killings of women are an assault on universal human rights and seriously undermine human dignity.
“Preventing all forms of violence against women requires the engagement of all segments of society, most especially the sustained participation of men and boys as partners in building more respectful relationships throughout our Maltese society.”
But I feel that the killing of Paulina is exceptional, even more so because it brings to the fore other issues which need to be discussed urgently, namely religious cult fanaticism, the ‘culture’ of stalking; untreated and unmonitored mental health conditions, hate speech, the misuse of social media, a sense of lack of safety in the community, which, in more ways than one, have contributed to her murder.
Alas, this does nothing to clear us, as a community, from our culpability in allowing this femicide to happen.
The ball is in our court. We need to really address this matter urgently and expediently.
I conclude with what Albert Bell, an esteemed colleague in the faculty stated in a Facebook post: “… the aetiology of violent crime entails multifarious bio-psycho-social factors, from genetic factors to childhood trauma, serious psychiatric disorders to myriad social contingencies.
“It is rarely a case of one singular factor but a nefarious cocktail that builds up gradually and is eventually unleashed with disastrous consequences for the victims of such crime”.
Paulina is a reminder that, once again, we have failed women. This heinous crime is a call for action, way overdue.